Humans are physically unique, so much so, that it stands to reason that we are also unique in our style. Traditional counseling often calls it personality and yet others call it temperament. Adaptive Therapy prefers to avoid labels so we consider our style something that can change over the years. We see it in people over time such as a parent who used to be a hot head is now relaxed and talkative. A young woman may be flirty but as she ages she demonstrate being affectionate instead. So, our style is flexible and designable.
The founder of Adaptive Therapy used to consider herself a “sporty natural,” when considering her physical appearance and living space. She has evolved to a “relaxed elegant,” style. It doesn’t mean that this is all she is, but it’s about how one lives in their world.
For example the younger Alexandrea played sports, ran competitions, and exercised regularly. She also hiked in nature. Now, Alexandrea still hikes and exercises but in a less competitive way, but instead for herself to be able to remain relaxed. Instead of a Pottery Barn look in décor she has switched to a modern elegant with carpet runners and linen drapes. So, consider evaluating your own style including, what you like about it, what you'd like to change and do it. Of course look at any underlying perceptions or core issues that may have boxed you into the style you have been living so your transition is a healthy one. In regard to other aspects of style, she has lived her life as a rescuer which is also termed as an enabler. However, being one has helped her learn how to live in parallel with others instead of being enmeshed, and intervening when unnecessary, which is unhealthy. And yet another style, work, she has enjoyed being a random concrete which allows her to think big ideas and have the wherewithal to put them into a linear sequence for execution.